...thats me. Ugh. Whats ridiculous is that I do it to myself. But, I feel that if I dont, then Im not being a good mom. My kids are INVOLVED in stuff. With three of them, that means Im very busy. I dont know how to slow it down either, without them suffering. However, maybe they wont be suffering? I dunno. How much is too much. Im convinced that kids that are involved stay out of trouble, especially as those teenage years creep in. I think a lot of my problem when I was a teen is that I wasnt really involved. I played soccer for a little while, but my parents were not involved in it with me, so I actually lost interest eventually and so started keeping busy with "other things" and thats all I will say about that. So, they are involved and so am I.
Dont get me wrong, I wasnt horrible, for example I didnt have a drug problem and never got arrested...but still, I did do some things I really dont want my kids doing. Things that had I been more INVOLVED, I probably would not have done.
Currently, on Tuesdays the boys have scouts, on Thursdays is football practice and Saturday is football games. Sundays is church and Mondays will be S's 4H nights with our dog Rocky. When football is done, it will be basketball time, and then the Holidays, and then in Spring, there is Baseball season....again. Round and Round it goes..where it stops...who the heck knows. I guess it doesnt. I guess this is parenting. Oh, and sometime soon S is going to be doing either dance or piano lessons, maybe both. I dont know where she fits in best.....either does she yet. But I do know that I dont want her to miss out on anything, on anything that she might be good at.
There were things I really wanted to do as a kid, that I could have done, if the time was taken to get me involved in it. And now I feel like Ill never know what I could have done with that chance, what I may or may not have become. I do not want to be responsible for that when it comes to my kids...so I guess I'll just be busy......
6 comments:
I think that kind of busy is a good thing to be! And, you're right, keeping them involved leaves them less time to get into the, let's just say, other stuff. ;)
Glad to hear you're doing well, even if you're busy!
Oh lady, I really don't want my kids to do what I did. I wasn't a druggie or anything like that either, but I did some not nice things. Things that nowadays kids would probably end up in jail for. Good for you for making the sacrifice of sane time for yourself to help your kiddos.
Girl, you've got busy down to a science. But I have a question...what do you do for YOU??? That's important too. :)
Busy is good - if I had busy I probably wouldn't have done half the things I did as a teen. Sigh. Though for my kids they need more family time than activities right now- time with our attention and rituals and routines...Bobby's attachment has greatly benefited from our together time. Everyone gets one thing a season: like basketball or indoor soccer, but not both. One of our favorite things as a family besides dinner together is our several hour drive to a vacation retreat as it forces us all to be still and present in the car and connect.
I think you are taking the right approach with busy as it is a similar path that we want to follow. I hope to learn from my parents' mistakes/lax judgment as well.
I really love your title!
My fear is that one of my girls will get involved in track, or swimming. Oy!
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